7 Daily Choices Podcast Episode 2: Build
Notes:
These two choices rise and fall together.
Safety and Honesty
Safety
Appreciate Differences
Encourage Strengths
Point out when people are in their wheel house
“I” Language
Stay away from contempt
Open your stance
Grow your impact by being willing to listen to someone else’s idea
Teachable - Matt Keller
Unlock your history
Remember “why” you came together
Write a letter to yourself
Honesty
Radical honesty tells others what they need to know even if they don’t want to hear it
Radical honesty cares more about the other persons growth than about you being right.
Radical honesty corrects what is wrong, but cares for the person.
If you are not radically honest no one will ever feel completely safe with you.
Be honest about who you are.
Shines light into the world
Hinders self-deception
Opens you up to growth
Works always
Two keys to being safe and honest that work quickly generosity and gratitude.
When we are honestly grateful people trust us more.
When gratitude is central to who we are we begin to change the whole culture around us.
“Gratitude looks like ingratitude unless it’s expressed.” - Andy Stanley
Gratitude Journal - Who should I be grateful for? (Name), Date, and How you expressed gratitude
Thank you cards - Hand written notes say you took the time to think about someone else.
“Anytime we give of ourselves in a way that we don’t have to, we just choose to, other people feel safer.”
